Topley’s Top 10 – October 03, 2023

1. Q3 Quarterly Sector Returns.

From Nasdaq Dorsey Wright

2. See Above Value Underperforming on Q3 Pullback S&P Pure Value Back to June Lows…50day thru 200day to downside

3. Value Stocks Keep Getting Cheaper

4. Dividend Paying Stocks Under Pressure….

WSJ By Hardika SinghFewer than 30 stocks in the S&P 500 have a dividend yield above that on the six-month Treasury bill, according to FactSet. 

That is a shift from much of the past decade when interest rates were near zero and hundreds of stocks within the index offered higher yields. At the end of 2021, before rates began to rise, there were 379 index constituents that offered a better yield than the Treasury bill, according to Birinyi Associates.

5. Long Duration Bond Bomb

Ben Carlson Blog

6. 46 Years of Interest Payments Gone on 30-Year Bond

7. Dow Jones Utility Stocks -4.5% in One Day…Capitulation??

8. JOLTS Visual…Openings Finally Moving Lower.

9. Top 5 Countries for Immigrant Business Founders in U.S.

Food for Thought: Immigrant founders of unicorn companies in the US:

Source: @TheDailyShot

10. Parents who raise kids with high emotional intelligence never use these 3 phrases: Harvard neuroscience expert

Julia DiGangi, Contributor

To raise more emotionally intelligent kids, parents need to speak to them in emotionally intelligent ways.

As a Harvard-trained neuropsychologist, I teach people communication styles that promote connection and independence, both of which are vital if you want to have strong, healthy and empathetic relationships.

Here are three phrases that parents of emotionally intelligent kids never use — and what to say instead:

1. “Why can’t you be more motivated?”

The brain is wired to excel when and where it can. So when children struggle, it’s not because they don’t want to do well — it’s because they simply can’t.

In other words, the issue isn’t their motivation. It’s that there is a disconnect between your expectations as a parent and their capabilities.

What to say instead: The emotionally intelligent response is to be curious about where your child’s motivation and abilities intersect.

Let’s say your kid is spending too much time playing video games and too little on reading.

Avoid asking, “Why aren’t you more motivated to read books?” Instead, try an open-ended question: “I see you really like video games. I’d love to hear what you like about them so much. Would you share with me?”

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2. “Why don’t you listen to me?”

I once worked with parents whose daughter had sensory difficulties. They were frustrated because at the doctor’s office, she refused to get out of the car.

But once they invited her into the conversation, they learned that she was actually bothered by the music played in the doctor’s office. This was easily corrected with a pair of earplugs.

Ultimately, the real issue was that the parents weren’t hearing the needs of their kid.

What to say instead: Children’s brains are wired for autonomy and a need to explore the world based on their own identity, not your beliefs about who they should be.

If you’re locked in a disagreement with a seemingly willful kid, instead of asking them why they don’t listen, consider asking, “Have I listened to you?”

Emotionally intelligent parents don’t strive for compliance from their children, but for connection. They need to know that you are willing to hear the truth of their experience.

3. “You are being so disrespectful!”

I frequently see parents jumping to broad — and catastrophic — conclusions about their child’s behavior based on their own insecurities.

One couple told me, “Our teenager doesn’t respect us,” because they didn’t listen when they were told to finish their science homework. But once the parents brought their concern up in a safe, low-stakes conversation, their teenager emphatically replied, “I do respect you! Science is just hard for me.”

What to say instead: The most emotionally intelligent approach to fears that your kid doesn’t respect you is to ask specific, non-judgmental questions, and then explicitly affirm your willingness to listen.

It could sound like this: “I noticed you got a 64% on your last science test. Would you be willing to talk about it? I just want to hear about your experience.”

Children’s feelings rub off on us. When they’re rattled, we get rattled. So when big emotions arise, it’s natural to want to control your child’s feelings by telling them to be quiet, settle down, or listen more closely. But as a parent, your job is not to control your children’s emotions — it’s to master your own.

Dr. Julia DiGangi, PhD, is a neuropsychologist and and author of ”Energy Rising: The Neuroscience of Leading with Emotional Power.″ She completed her residency at Harvard Medical School, Boston University School of Medicine, and the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs. She studied genetics, trauma and resilience at Columbia, the University of Chicago and Georgetown. Follow her on Instagram @drjuliadigangi.